So this morning I was cleaning my wedding ring, I do it about once a week or so. I have this extra tooth brush that I clean it with that I set aside in the bathroom for when I need it.
I got to thinking about how cleaning my wedding ring kind of symbolizes a healthy marriage for me.
I’m a guy, a “guys” guy at that. My hands stay constantly banged up and dirty. I work on cars, they get cut. I work on the yard, they get dirty. My ring bares the brunt of those things as well. That’s why I clean it.
Friends have asked why I take the time to clean it when it will probably get dirty and no one will really notice a difference. “You’re the man, no one cares how pretty your ring is.” Here’s the thing: IT. DOES. MATTER.
Because every time I clean it, it reminds me of the small things in our marriage I should be doing. When my wife comes home from work, have I listened to her day? Like really listened?
I put down my phone, turn off the TV, and make her the center of my world, so that she feels like her day really matters to me because it does.
While we’re laying in bed watching our favorite show at night I reach over and scratch her back or play with her hair, letting her know “yes we may just be watching a show together but make no mistake, I know you’re next to me and you are the center of my world. Have you stopped by her work lately and brought her a coke, or maybe her favorite candy.
It doesn’t have to be extravagant, just something small to let her know “hey I was thinking about you and I thought you would like this”. See you don’t just “fall out of love” one day when you wake up.
It happens over time, because you stopped doing the little things. You stopped courting her (that by the way shouldn’t stop once you get married, that should enhance).
You stopped trying to impress her. Everyday I wake to my wife, I pretend she is a stranger that I am madly in love with and think “how today can I make her fall in love with me”
The small things matter gentlemen, so yes I will continue to wash my wedding ring.
About the Author:
This story was written by Jeff Hardy and published here with permission from the author.