A Texas UPS driver has a different take on sharing domestic responsibilities between husbands and wives. In a TikTok video, he explained why he doesn’t help his wife with the household chores.
J.R. Minton, a UPS driver lives with his wife and four children. He became well-known on TikTok for having great insights into family life. Recently, his video about sharing household chores became viral.
“I don’t help my wife cook, I don’t help her clean, do laundry, take care of the kids – none of that,” Minton began talking. Before his viewers thought of him as a lazy and irresponsible head of household, he immediately gave away the twist and said the words every woman would love to hear.
“Because I do what I’m supposed to do as a father and a husband: I cook. I clean. I do the laundry. I take care of the kids,” Minton added.
“’I can’t ‘help’ my wife do those things because they are my job too. Change the way you speak, change the way you think, and grow the f**k up and be a man.”
Minton’s video went viral and quickly amassed over 6 million views. A lot of his viewers shared that the beginning of the video nearly triggered them and they were almost ready to take a swipe at him.
Thankfully, Minton headed in a different direction, which made his female viewers chill completely. “I was about to get salty. Glad you clarified,” wrote one of the commenters.
Many of his female viewers agreed with what Minton said in the video. He also received a lot of praise from wives who wished their partners had the same perception.
Some of them could not help but express their disappointment in their husbands for making them do most of the household chores.
One said her husband couldn’t even flush the toilet while another one complained that her husband makes him cook at 2 a.m.
Sadly, some men still think that their only job is to provide for the family and that all the household chores are women’s responsibility.
This was also the reason why Minton made this video: to make everyone realize that household chores are a shared responsibility and men should do them willingly. He believes that men doing household chores should be normalized.
According to Minton, he is an equal partner to his wife. Because he was raised differently, he wanted to make things right for his family. “Pretty much everything about my parenting style is in spite of what I saw when I was growing up,” says the Texas UPS driver.
“I may provide money from my work, but she affords me the ability to work. Having a SAHM is a privilege for me and the kids, not Brittany. I made the video to switch the narrative. Brittany is my partner, not my employee. I have just as much responsibility to our house and children,”
Minton realized how necessary his marriage philosophy was when a woman at Target praised him for doing what he thought was the “bare minimum.”
“I was wearing the baby, and I had two kids in the cart, and this lady comes up to Brittany, and she’s like, ‘Oh my God. Is this your husband!? Look at him. You should take a picture of him,’” Minton said. “I get so much credit for doing nothing. How low is the bar?”
As a response to his viral video, Minton posted a heartfelt follow-up for their supporters. “I’m truly humbled at how far my message has gone,” he said. “However, I’d like to take a second to say: I am not special. I am no ‘unicorn.’ I am normal.”
“Nothing about my parenting style or my commitment to my wife is unique. Although it may seem out of the ordinary, it is far from extraordinary,” he continued. “Every father and husband we know (that seems to come up short) is fully capable — yet unwilling.”
You can watch Minton’s video here: