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The 10 important ingredients that will build a long-lasting and healthy relationship

The most important people in our lives are of course our family, friends, and other loved ones, and identifying the keys to a healthy relationship is essential to maintaining these bonds.

Various factors affect the development of relationships and issues naturally arise, but knowing what may positively impact relationships can help ensure that connections will endure. Knowing the keys to a healthy relationship is particularly significant in romantic relationships.

When relationships mature and marriage comes into the horizon, there is a greater need to safeguard against issues that may negatively affect the relationship.

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When you are ready to make that long-term commitment, you may need a deeper look into the various facets of the relationship to prevent any future emotional distress.

Experts state that these 10 factors are some of the crucial ingredients to lasting relationships:

(1) Know what you want. In choosing a romantic partner, think about your own needs and who can meet them. We all want different things and different people may be able to satisfy those needs. Remember that you hope to live with this person for the rest of your life.

(2) Love and commitment.  Love is key to a satisfying relationship, ensuring that it will stay strong and survive for a long time. But commitment is even more important since it shows that a couple is determined to do everything to resolve problems and stay together.

(3) Attraction and intimacy. Attraction is subjective, but emotional and physical attraction is significant between partners in a relationship. Intimacy is what separates marriage from all other relationships since it refers to an emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual closeness with your partner. 

Intimacy means a willingness to be vulnerable without fear of being hurt or rejected and sharing all aspects of each other’s life.

(4) Friendship and shared interests. One of the keys to a healthy relationship is friendship between the couple and enjoying time spent together. They say that opposites attract but this may only be true at a superficial level and may not work in long-term relationships.

When love temporarily weakens, friendship may be able to pull a couple back together. It is important for partners to accept and respect each other, enjoy each other’s company, have good conversations, and share interests, values, inspirations, and hopes.

Partners who are also good friends can share decisions and responsibilities and plans for the future. This will prevent control issues and other struggles and bring joy to the relationship.

(5) Acts of kindness and mutual support. Friends and lovers who are in a deeply committed relationship are more thoughtful and caring and have a greater tendency to show gratitude and appreciation. They are more supportive of each other, and this will only make their love stronger.

(6) Fidelity, trust, and honesty. Since you are investing heavily in a person, emotionally, psychologically, and financially, make sure to choose someone you can trust. Trust is key to a healthy relationship, especially if there are plans for children in the future.

Emotional and physical fidelity is also paramount since finding a deep connection outside of the relationship will erode trust. Honesty is also important to build and maintain trust. Honesty and trust breed respect, and love cannot last without it.

(7) Sense of responsibility and successful conflict resolution. Experts state that looking for someone who is willing to take responsibility is an easily overlooked key ingredient to a healthy and lasting relationship.

Rigid and controlling people are less likely to take responsibility for their behavior in a relationship. This may mean an unwillingness to compromise or resolve conflicts.

Conflicts between couples are inevitable, because no matter how many interests and values are shared, the relationship is essentially still between two different individuals. But couples should be willing to learn to manage conflicts and resolve issues in a mutually respectful way.

(8) Effective communication. No matter what happens, open communication between couples is one of the keys to a healthy relationship. Words, facial expressions, tone of voice, and gestures all affect the expression of feelings, thoughts, wants, and needs.

It is important for everyone to learn to communicate in non-judgmental and non-accusing ways. This will help you better understand and develop patience with your partner.

(9) Independence and respect for personal boundaries. Some people expect their partner to make their life complete and happy. Ultimately, you must take responsibility for your own needs, happiness, growth, development, friendships, and interests.

Do not expect your partner to make your life whole. The best relationships are developed between mature and responsible adults who have chosen to be together. Similarly, the couple needs to respect each other’s personal space and the need to pursue personal interests, or recharge separately from the other.

Love may be suffocating when a couple spends too much time together. A little “me” time can help rejuvenate and rekindle one’s love for each other.

(10) Humor. Having the ability to laugh together is certainly one of the keys to a healthy relationship. Sharing a sense of humor and making gentle fun of each other helps inject fun into the relationship. Life is not easy, so couples should learn to never take it too seriously.

Some people might see this as overthinking, that it’s easy to understand the keys to a healthy relationship. Still, people who did not grow up in a healthy family or home may not even know what a healthy relationship looks like.

These factors can help in the choice of a partner and create a long and committed relationship. Consider how you engage with your partner and together build a healthy relationship that promotes emotional and social wellness and a wonderful future together.

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