Wise men once said not to judge a book based on its cover. Yet despite of the ‘popularity’ of the old saying, there are still people out there who easily make an opinion about people based on their appearance.
A mother of a young girl was ‘taught’ to never judge a person based on appearances the hard way by a ‘dirty man’ she misjudged.
Andy Ross of Vancouver Washington was in a store when he had experienced what he calls as “educational conversation” with a woman and her daughter in a store last May 22, 2018. Andy noticed how the little girl keeps looking at him. He doesn’t mind as he is used with kids staring at him, especially when he was as dirty as he was during that day.
As the mother and daughter were heading towards the door to leave the store, Andy heard the mother talking to her daughter about the importance of education. “That is why you need to stay in school,” The mother quietly said to the little girl.
Andy, who wouldn’t let the encounter pass, decided to educate the mother and her 7 to 8 year old daughter.
The following is how Andy and the mother’s conversation went by:
“First, I happen to be a very educated dirty man. I not only have a high school diploma, I also have a college degree and many medical certifications. So assuming that I am uneducated because of my appearance is actually quite ignorant in itself.”
“Secondly, if you are telling your daughter to stay in school because I have tattoos up and down my arms, that will actually suppress her creativity and potentially hinder her imagination as she develops.”
“Again, contradictory to your point ma’am. I am proud of my tattoos and artwork that Forrest Bateman put on my body. It’s a representation of my pride in my country and my service over multiple combat tours as a special operations medic.”
“Third, if you’re referring that statement to the hat (not featured) I’m wearing because it features an elk, you might not understand it. I happen to co-own Evergreen State Outdoors and am proud to own an outdoors company and support my rights to hunt and responsibly be a gun owner.
“Finally, I chose to work in a construction industry. I am proud to say that I am apart of building America and I enjoy my job everyday.”
“I tried working a desk job when I got out of the service and it wasn’t for me.”
“I enjoy working with my hands and being outdoors. Subsequently, it comes with being dirty some days. I make good money, have benefits, and am able to provide for my family without issue. So my appearance reflects nothing to do with my level of intelligence or pursuing a higher level of education.”
Andy Ross ended his conversation with the mother with a final statement of “Have a good day and try not to judge people before you know anything about them. Good luck with her little girl.”
Indeed, a person cannot be defined by his appearance. What he looks like does not define his life. Instead of casting judgment against someone we don’t know, why don’t we build friendship? Start a conversation, ask questions, get to know each other. We could always learn a thing or two from each other’s life experiences.
(Was there an instance in your life in which you have misjudged someone? We would like to know about it, do share your experience on the comment box below!)
Photo Credit: Andy Ross