Every human being knows what’s right for him or herself. We all know that when we or someone we love is sick, we want them well.| We all know that when the car is broken, we need it fixed. We all know that when a relationship is damaged, it needs to be repaired or released.
No matter what’s happened or is happening, even YOU can find joy again. Promise. OK, so here’s the deal, best as I can figure it. Bad stuff happens. To all of us. In the worst possible ways and at the worst possible times. We hurt. Life hurts. It’s painful. It can be awful, sad, terrible,
When a human being is abused by another, the most important thing we lose is our sense of trust. As abuse victims, we decide we can no longer trust some (or all) of these: • A parent or both parents • A relative or all relatives • All men or all women • Teachers, priests,
How to Help Yourself Today When you set a goal and move toward it, even if it is only baby steps, you give yourself a “small success.” Each small success gives you a little booster shot of dopamine, a feel-good chemical in your brain. You really can use the power of “Small Successes” to help
Are You Hanging On Too Long? A man whose wisdom I admire – suggested I simply stop trying to force something to work in my company. This “something” has worked a little bit, now and then, partially, with enormous effort, for almost no profit, for two years. Now, I come from a long line of
…even if it hurts It’s astonishing how many people right this minute are trying to cope with the fact that their heart is broken, they are deeply sad or depressed, or are managing traumatic things happening in their lives – yet they still need to function in their daily lives. Maybe you’re one of them?
A girlfriend I have known for 14 years has abruptly ended our friendship. She blast-emailed a photo of herself holding her new puppy and wrote a long paragraph about how “deformed” she looks because a cancerous spot was removed from her nostril. I remember the surgery – I was supportive during it – but the
“It’s hard to watch your child grow up…in your mind.” If you’ve lost a child, you already know there’s nothing anyone can say. If it’s been a while, looking back you can probably see that you did irrational, illogical, insane things in the immediate aftermath. You started a charity you didn’t really have the energy
Are you struggling with a separation? My friend “Brian” is going through the crazy time common during a divorce. Driven blindly by guilt, he’s making himself more miserable than he needs to be. He moved out, then guilt over “abandoning” his 18 yr old high school senior drove him to move back in. It took
Chances are, if you were drawn to the title of this blog, you know the definition of the word “anguish” all too well. You know it isn’t like “sadness” or “depression”; Anguish is nothing like “disappointment” or “sorrow” nor even, on its own, “grief.” Anguish is when you are ripped open, body and soul, and
What to Do When You’re Feeling blue. Everyone has sad, blue days sometimes. When the burdens of life pile up, or you’re exhausted from dealing with some seemingly-never-ending crisis, feeling blue is normal. Here are some strategies and tips for coping with those kinds of days and putting yourself into a sunnier disposition: 1. Know