I have always been a people-pleaser. I go with the flow and I don’t make waves. I have been breaking my own heart to keep everyone else happy. I’ve given in to psychological manipulation. But since turning 40, like literally, the day I turned 40, I started to feel this shift and I just knew … Read more
A dear friend of mine recently suffered an unimaginable loss. As we were eating dinner together and catching up on each other’s lives, her eyes filled with tears and suddenly she was overcome with sadness. She expressed that she felt as though she hasn’t had time to grieve properly and she just couldn’t understand why … Read more
The cycle has to stop. You are worthy of all the love your heart can hold. The moment that someone makes you feel otherwise, is the moment you need to say goodbye. It will be very hard, and you’ll doubt yourself many times. You’ll even feel some remorse and regret. You’ll spend a lot of … Read more
Do you remember what your life was like before you let society tell you what it should be like? Before you let anyone judge you for how you dress, or what you look like; the things you enjoy or the people you associate with? I often have these beautiful moments of memories that pop into … Read more
I think it’s time I got over myself. Ever since I decided to share my personal struggles with the world, I have been on this amazing, healing journey that has pushed me to grow in so many ways. I feel more in touch with myself than I ever have. I am more aware of who … Read more
“You don’t choose bad people. You choose people. How they decide to treat you is their responsibility, not yours.” Wise words from my therapist last week. I’ve been dwelling on these words and hoping to find some truth in there. Hoping to believe it. When I moved away to a different state at 19, I … Read more
Toxic relationships — why do we settle in and stay a while? Maybe it’s the challenge, the chase or the drama of it all. We like to mistake dysfunction for passion. Maybe it’s because we don’t know HOW to have a normal, healthy, loving relationship. We were never taught the right way to love and … Read more
I’m making a vow, right now, to never use someone’s past against them if they have made a conscious effort to be better. We do it all the time. Every day. Especially now that everything seems to be so politically charged. But at what point do we just let go? At what point do we … Read more
An elderly man just left my office. He was quite talkative, and honestly, I’m kind of surprised I didn’t find a way to politely wrap up the conversation like I sometimes do on a busy work day. But I could see that he just wanted someone to talk to and he was cheerful and pleasant, and … Read more
Being insecure means constantly explaining yourself. It’s the need for validation and reassurance. It’s wanting approval and justifying every move you make. It’s panic when you feel like you’ve let someone down or maybe you didn’t say the right thing. It’s desperately seeking acceptance. But mostly, it’s just exhausting. Being the people-pleaser that I am, … Read more
“I spent so many years walking on egg shells… never doing or saying the right thing. One day I decided I’d had enough and stomped all over them. Those broken egg shells cut me deeply as I walked away… but this… was the most beautiful pain I had ever felt.” – S.L. Heaton For far … Read more
How often do you look up certain people on Facebook or Instagram only to become annoyed, jealous or angry? We all do it. We torture ourselves. We cyber stalk people and then compare our lives to theirs. We compare our relationships, our goodness, our beauty and our happiness. Why? We start with low self-esteem, we … Read more